Friends can give us a feeling of belonging, bring fun and laughter, lend an extra hand, offer emotional support, and give guidance when you need it.
And, whether you realize it or not, their influence goes well beyond the moment. Your close friendships help to shape the course of your life.
As human beings, we become so busy with our jobs, family, household chores, daily activities that we often neglect one of the most important aspects of life that’s friendships, the relationships that develop over time that hold a very special place in our heart and that society continues to ignore.
Friends are family members that we choose to allow and keep in our lives.
From our first childhood friend to those lifelong friends we have known for decades; friends are treasures that can bring so much positive into our lives but yet we often become too busy and neglect these important people.
One of the most important and yet least understood areas of psychology concerns the role of friends in our lives.
Friends affects you in more ways than you realize.
Whether you realize it or not, your friends have shaped who you are today. You are even the product of the friends who are no longer your friends.
Friends Help Us Interact With Just About Everyone
The people we bring into our lives as friends will show us how to forgive, laugh, and make conversation. The basic components of any relationship, from our marriage to our coworkers, are all founded in friendship. We learn how to interact with people because of our friends, even the ones that are opposite from us or share a different worldview.
We don’t just talk with others but learn from them. We understand the process of meeting new acquaintances and finding out what makes them tick. These people help push us out of our comfort zones while still providing a safe emotional space for us to be totally ourselves.
Good friends can be and will be your backbone.
Whether you are celebrating a great life event they will show up with a bottle of wine, or two, and celebrate with you.
If you are going through a rough patch in life, they are there to listen, give you advice and try to get you out of that slump. True friends show up, no matter what. True friends do not make excuses, do not flake on you and do not bring you down:
Childhood friendships start your learning process.
Early friendships play a vital role because they occur while key developmental changes are taking place. They help teach us some of those important life skills but also shape our life “narrative.” Parents and teachers should give kids unstructured time to work out their own social relationships rather than to over-program them into restrictive activities.
Teen friendships shape your later romantic bonds.
Though parents spend much of their time worrying about who their teenage kids are with, these relationships are a training ground for the later long-term bonds that will evolve through adulthood.
Parents should recognize that peers will “trump” them every time, and so instead of fighting with your kids about spending too much time with their friends, or who their friends are, you can help your children more by inviting their friends over to your home.
Close friends support you through thick and thin.
To take the most advantage of a friendship put effort into it. Although being friendly can get you more friends, you don’t need hundreds to help you through life.
You may have to prune your friendship tree as you get older to be sure that you give enough attention to the ones who will really matter for your well-being.
Friends Keep Us Mentally and Physically Strong
One of the most overlooked benefits of friendship is that it helps keep our minds and bodies strong. In fact, it’s as important to our physical health as eating well and keeping fit. A recent Harvard study concluded that having solid friendships in our life even helps promote brain health.
Friends helps us deal with stress, make better lifestyle choices that keep us strong, and allow us to rebound from health issues and disease more quickly.
Friendship is equally important to our mental health. One study even suggested spending time with positive friends actually changes our outlook for the better. That means we’re happier when we choose to spend time with happy people. (All the more reason to leave that toxic friendship behind.)
Friends can make you miserable too.
There is a dark side to friendship too. The people who know you the best are also the ones who have the most power to betray you, should the relationship sour.
Friends can also get you into trouble. If your friends are doing something bad or harmful, you tend to be more likely to do so as well. They can also cause you stress when they get in the way of other important goals or relationships.
Be ready to say no to friends who disappoint, betray, or stress you and you’ll be more likely to get the full friendship effect.
Friends Help Us Weather Lonely Times
Friends don’t completely cure loneliness (that’s a common myth) but they do help us during lonely times. We learn how to accept kindness and also to reach out when we need help. Those painful times when we might be without friends also help us to appreciate the friendships that come in and out of our lives.
Having a steady stream of friends lets us know that some friendships won’t last forever but each one brings something special. We learn more about ourselves and how important it is to have someone, just one person, who knows and understands you. This is the key to coming out of loneliness.
Loneliness is painful, especially when you are living with loneliness for a prolonged period of time. This is yet another reason to put time, energy, and attention into finding and cultivating a close circle of friends.
Your online friends can steer your thoughts and behaviors.
Although online friends are different than your in-person friends, they shape you nevertheless. They can also be your source of life support. Of course, your online friends can also make you miserable too, especially if you get caught in some nasty comments from someone who you never met.
A strong social network is associated with a healthier and longer life. Much research has shown that people with friends and supportive family are less stressed and are physically healthier.
Go on, get out there with your reunions and rekindle old friendships, strengthen weakened friendships and develop new friendships.
We are living on borrowed time and we will not be remembered for what we did in life but rather whom we touched throughout our journey in life.
Quotes of the day:
“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”
May God shower you with blessings today and always. Have a wonderful day and this is Guru Krissy Gee