Words often hurt, The saying that the pen is mightier than the sword is as true today as it ever was.
The same applies to “a problem shared is a problem halved” So let’s examine how our mind and body reacts to words both from a spoken and listening perspective.
Let us try understand the benefits of words.
Your mind is a natural healer. When you break your arm, the cast sets the bones, but you’re your body does the actual healing.
You already know how to become whole, complete and healed. Immerse yourself in these words of well- being.
Sometimes just one word repeated and embraced can point you toward healing.
How would any one of the below words feel in your life right now? Can you know that at your core they are true?
When we need to heal, most often, we look at the outside circumstances of being “broken.” We fail to see the real truth, that we are complete, we are whole.
We allow any external distractions to reflect on our internal healing mechanisms.
What if I was to propose that there are significant difference between being “healed” and being “cured”. Confused? Let me try to explain it simply.
Healing refers to the solving of a problem with much emphasis on our own bodies strengths and gifts.
Some may call these events miracles, others may call it something else. Being cured generally may be referred to when the condition is being treated with external remedies or medication.
But what cannot be denied is , no matter how good a medical procedure is, no matter how good the doctor is, no matter how good the treatment is, if a person gives up the will to live that person will pass away.
This really cannot be understood by modern medicine. But yet, everyone reading this article right now will be able to recall an incident where a doctor has said, “we’ve done everything we can, its up to him/her now. He/She can fight this but the outcome will depend on their will to live” This dilemma can also be applied to non- medical conditions.
If we have a problem we must focus on the benefits of a successful conclusion and not on the negatives of the situation.
We must heal our minds, clear away the cobwebs, focus on our objectives amd move forward.
What can a mere word do to heal?
In ordinary life words can be incredibly powerful, creating instantaneous, often dramatic changes in mind and body.
Think of the difference between hearing the words “You’re hired” and “You’re fired.” How many lives have been changed by “I love you”? Yet we actually know very little about how to consciously employ the effect that a single word can have.
Withhold harsh words
Being honest doesn’t mean being brutal. In the name of telling the truth, we’ve all heard and said things we’re sorry were ever uttered.
It’s worth remembering that every cell in your body is eavesdropping on the brain, and when you feel hurt or shocked by what you hear, the same shock is occurring to hundreds of billions of cells.
It used to be that physicians hardly ever told fatally ill patients that they were dying, often withholding even the diagnosis. (When the last emperor of Japan died, he was not given his diagnosis, this old practice still holds in other cultures to this day.)
It was thought that receiving bad news could hasten a person’s death and impair his chances of recovery.
This effect is known as nocebo, the reverse of placebo. In essence, your body metabolized bad news and becomes sicker, or it metabolizes good news and starts to heal.
Today, we believe it is only ethical to give patients full disclosure about their illness, and on the whole that is the right thing to do.
But it doesn’t erase the nocebo effect. Leaving medicine aside, consider withholding harsh, harmful truths in daily life.
There is no reason to discourage a child, for example, by saying hurtful things.
It’s well known in psychology that descriptive statements (such as “you’re lazy, you can’t be trusted, you’ll never be as smart as your sister,” etc.) make a much deeper impression than prescriptive statements (such as “clean up your room, remember to come home on time, be nice to your sister” etc.)
Sometimes a single derogatory sentence from a parent or close friend can remain stuck in the brain for life, serving as a toxic seed that grows into a belief that one will never be good enough, smart enough, or beautiful enough. It’s much harder to remove these seeds than not to plant them in the first place.
Words that heal
Besides holding back on harsh and derogatory words, saying words that heal really works.
Offering reassurance in an anxious situation settles people.
Reminding someone that they are loved, respected, and valued should be a habit.
Such words serve to bond two people together at a deep level if the words are backed up with simple, sincere, believable emotion — not over-stated emotion but natural feeling.
We tend to be shy about exposing ourselves emotionally, but only if you try can you gain the benefit.
Then there are words we say only to ourselves, silent words of healing. In the East there are thousands of such formulas, many gathered under the loose term of mantra that are repeated in order to infuse the mind with their positive effect.
You can’t get much effect from repeating a word like love, compassion, kindness, and forgiveness when your mind is agitated or filled with the debris of everyday life.
But if you deepen your awareness through meditation, which brings one’s attention to a level of silence beneath the surface static, then healing words can have quite a strong effect.
It is taught that healing words, when said at a subtle level of the mind, can do several things.
They can purify the mind of negative thoughts by introducing a more positive effect (such as replacing “It’s my fault” with “Blame won’t help anybody”).
A healing word can bring comfort; it can add a positive element to your surroundings.
It can improve your mood and the overall tone of your demeanor, which others will notice and take heed of.
Words Have Power – Words are Energy
Your Body Believes Every Word You Say
Words are really two – edged swords – they can destroy or empower us.
Effects Of (Negative) Words On Our Health
The words we speak are powerful forces of creation. If we could see the energy behind our words and how they command, are responded to and manifest, we would use them very carefully.
Yet we use words as a method of communicating with each other and often unaware that we are also communicating on many other levels each time we speak.
Every sound we utter sends out an energy wave that aids in creating our world.
Words need not be directed at a particular person in order to do damage. They can do damage even when overheard by someone outside the circle of conversation.
Ugly words stick in the mind – which is one reason why we must be especially careful of the words we use within the hearing of children.
But fine words also stick in the mind, and every time we say something worthwhile, it could have unexpected and lasting benefit in the life of someone who is listening.
What is the relationship between beliefs and words?
Each person has beliefs about words. People have positive and negative connotations associated with words layered in many thoughts and feelings. Pick any word.
If you cannot think of a word in this moment, some suggestions are hope, sadness, cure, health, healing, death, God, family, friends, and community.
Start with only one word to focus on your beliefs for that word alone.
What are your thoughts and feelings around that word? Where do your thoughts and feelings for that word come from? Do you like how you relate to the word?
If not, what would you prefer to think and feel related to the word? In short,” We are what We say” , so think carefully about the words we use , not just to others but to ourselves also.